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The Myth of Confident Leadership

  • Writer: Yvonne Tajok
    Yvonne Tajok
  • Mar 23, 2023
  • 3 min read

Confidence is often seen as an essential trait for effective leadership. The ability to inspire and motivate others, make tough decisions, and navigate complex situations all require a degree of self-assuredness. However, the myth that confident leaders are born and not made is just that - a myth.


While it’s true that some individuals may have a predisposition towards confidence, confidence is not an innate characteristic. Rather, it is a skill that can be developed and honed through experience and practice. In fact, many leaders who are considered confident today may have initially struggled with self-doubt and insecurity.


One of the most significant factors in developing confidence as a leader is experience. Leaders who have successfully navigated challenges and achieved their goals in the past are more likely to feel confident in their abilities to do so again. Similarly, leaders who have taken on new challenges and learned from their mistakes are more likely to feel confident in their decision-making abilities. So know that it’s OK to make mistakes so long as you are learning from them.


Another important factor in building confidence is self-awareness. Leaders who understand their strengths and weaknesses are better equipped to make decisions and take action with confidence. By acknowledging areas where they may need support or guidance, leaders can seek out resources and feedback to improve their skills and feel more secure in their abilities.


It’s also important to note that confidence doesn’t mean arrogance. While confident leaders may have a strong sense of self-assurance, they are also humble, empathetic and open to feedback. They understand that they do not have all the answers and are willing to learn from others.


Remember that confident leaders are not born but made. While some individuals may have a natural predisposition towards confidence, it is a skill that can be developed through experience, self-awareness, and a willingness to learn and grow. Aspiring leaders shouldn’t be discouraged if the feeling of confidence doesn’t come naturally straightaway, but instead focus on building their skills and experiences to develop their confidence over time.


The next step in building confidence as a leader is to take action. Here are some steps you can take to continue developing your confidence as a leader:


  • Set goals: Setting achievable goals is a great way to build confidence! Start by setting small, attainable goals for yourself and gradually work your way up to more challenging goals. When you achieve your goals, take time to acknowledge your accomplishments and celebrate your successes. Reward yourself.

  • Practise, practise, practise: The more experience you have as a leader, the more confident you will become. Look for opportunities to take on new challenges and responsibilities, and don't be afraid to make mistakes. Use these experiences as opportunities to learn and grow, and you will find that your confidence will continue to grow as well.

  • Seek feedback: Feedback from others can be a powerful tool for building confidence. Ask for feedback from your team members, colleagues, and mentors. Be open to constructive criticism and use it to improve your skills and knowledge.

  • Develop your skills: Investing in your professional development can also help build confidence. Attend conferences, take courses, and read books to enhance your knowledge and skills. As you become more knowledgeable and skilled, you will naturally feel more confident in your abilities.

  • Surround yourself with support: It's important to surround yourself with supportive people who believe in you and your abilities. Seek out mentors and coaches who can help guide you and offer advice. Build a network of colleagues and peers who can provide support and encouragement when you need it.


By taking these steps, you can continue to build your confidence as a leader and achieve your goals. Remember, confidence is not something you are born with, but rather something you can develop over time with action and commitment.


 
 
 

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